Connecting your personal Day of Atonement with our country's non-atonement was very interesting. I think frequently of the latter as it relates to affordable housing - everybody of course is all for affordable housing - as long as nothing changes, especially the intentionally exclusionary single-family housing rules. In Boulder we like to pass taxes and give away money, but are unwilling to change the structure that created the situation. Maybe because it's been baked in for generations.
It's remarkable that you have identified traits in common with generations of your male ancestors. And unlike the country, you are being thoughtful and aware - the pattern might not change today, but awareness is always the first step.
I was adopted so have zero knowledge of any ancestors. I'm always surprised when people express sympathy, or I hear of others launching all-out searches for their biological parents - I'm really happy about my fate! No Hatfield vs McCoys, Sunni vs Shia, Northern Ireland vs Ireland for me - I'm out of any generational fray - just be here now.
Yeah, the idea that "everyone and everything needs to change except me and my interests" is a pervasive philosophy, especially when there are a lot of zeros backing those interests, as they do in Boulder. I will say some of the conversations around changing the structure are advancing, but the incumbent powers are still strong, so real change is slower than it should be.
As I'm not adopted, I can't speak to your situation, though my strong sense is that we are subject to ancestral trends, whether we like it or know it or not. But who knows, maybe your biological parents were saints and purified their negative karma before putting you up for adoption ;-).
Connecting your personal Day of Atonement with our country's non-atonement was very interesting. I think frequently of the latter as it relates to affordable housing - everybody of course is all for affordable housing - as long as nothing changes, especially the intentionally exclusionary single-family housing rules. In Boulder we like to pass taxes and give away money, but are unwilling to change the structure that created the situation. Maybe because it's been baked in for generations.
It's remarkable that you have identified traits in common with generations of your male ancestors. And unlike the country, you are being thoughtful and aware - the pattern might not change today, but awareness is always the first step.
I was adopted so have zero knowledge of any ancestors. I'm always surprised when people express sympathy, or I hear of others launching all-out searches for their biological parents - I'm really happy about my fate! No Hatfield vs McCoys, Sunni vs Shia, Northern Ireland vs Ireland for me - I'm out of any generational fray - just be here now.
Yeah, the idea that "everyone and everything needs to change except me and my interests" is a pervasive philosophy, especially when there are a lot of zeros backing those interests, as they do in Boulder. I will say some of the conversations around changing the structure are advancing, but the incumbent powers are still strong, so real change is slower than it should be.
As I'm not adopted, I can't speak to your situation, though my strong sense is that we are subject to ancestral trends, whether we like it or know it or not. But who knows, maybe your biological parents were saints and purified their negative karma before putting you up for adoption ;-).